Is it possible to learn how to build self esteem and be wrong at the same time?
I am asking you to read what happened to me today and then decide for yourself.
In yesterday’s post I wrote about choosing a challenge to help boost your self esteem.
And I explained how, just a couple of days previously, I had come across the Fitness Cheerleader’s August Challenge.
Janice (the cheerleader) suggested that those taking part could challenge themselves to making a blog entry each day during August.
And I thought that, even though I could see difficulties in doing this, it would be a good thing to make an attempt at doing that very thing.
In fact, I also said that some of the entries would be brief but I would do my best to make them interesting and related to self esteem.
Click these links if you want to check out my Choosing a Challenge to Boost Self Esteem and the post that started it all by the Fitness Cheerleader
How To Build self Esteem And Admit When You Are Wrong
But here I am just one day later and I am admitting that I made a mistake.
I won’t be able to continue with the challenge.
I woke up this Sunday morning with the day mapped out, but even before getting the opportunity to eat breakfast I had a phone call from one of my nieces.
She lives about an hour and a half away from us and she told me that her husband had had a bad accident last night. He slipped on some wet tiles, crashed to the floor and banged his head hard.
Emergency services were called and had been taken to the Hospital de Rehabilitacion y Traumatologia in Granada – the Hospital of Trauma and Rehabilitation (see picture).
She Needed Help
My niece had been up all night in the Hospital, her phone battery was almost spent and she needed help.
She didn’t have to say anything more.
Babs, my wife, and I quickly got ourselves sorted and set off to find her.
In my next post I will explain about the hospital and what happened there, but for today I felt I should just explain why I am not going to continue with the challenge.
And so I am writing this late on Sunday evening because this is what I had committed to – writing a post each day.
And This Is What I Have Realised
I have realised that the demands on my time are such that I just cannot devote the time each and every day in writing a post on this blog.
I need – no, that isn’t true – I want – to be available and to have space in my day-to-day life for:-
- The people who need me: family, friends and my therapy clients,
- The commitments I already have in my life. And
- A “Free time buffer” so that I can keep myself “balanced” each day as I go along.
If anyone asks me about how to build self esteem, these are the things I will always say I need .
Is It Right To Change My Mind
Am I wrong to change my mind about the challenge?
I will leave that for you to decide.
I think that yesterday I should have thought through the process more fully before agreeing to my challenge.
But I think that my explaining my thinking in this way I may help someone reading this to understand that “we” do not need to be right all the time.
- We can be wrong.
- We can make mistakes. And
- We should admit that we have made a mistake as soon as we realise that.
I read this quote just a few weeks ago:-
A man (or woman) should never be ashamed to own that he has been in the wrong, which is but saying…that he is wiser today than yesterday.
Jonathan Swift
As my part of the Fitness Cheerleader’s Challenge I intend to write at least two posts (maybe even three) each week until the end of August.
But is this enough?
And will it be a help for someone wanting help in how to build self esteem.
What do you think? Please leave a comment.
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Hi Dave,
I would prefer quality over quantity every time. I therefore only blog when I have something valuable to say. One of the great bloggers is Steve Pavlina – he goes into each topic in depth rather skimming the surface.
Content curation is one good way of finding high quality content to share but it would be important to add your own opinion and comments to that content.
kind regards
Mark Salmon
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Hi Mark
Thank you for stopping by.
I wasn’t familiar with Steve Pavlina but I’ve just spent a good half hour looking over his site. It is very interesting. Thanks for the info.
My intention in blogging is to create 10% to 15% in depth posts with the remaining posts being written to create a presence.
Obviously all posts should have good content. But when I’m browsing other people’s blogs I do enjoy reading a mix of post types.
The problem is – if problem is the correct word – is that even a simple post can take me quite a bit of time to write and publish.
Thanks also for the heads up on curation. This is e
something else I want to/ need to practice.
All the best
It is never wrong to admit you made a mistake. It is not wrong for you to decide to not go ahead with the challenge.
Time never stands still and so things change all the time! We have to adapt to the change and that might mean changing a decision we made.
Kay
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Hi Kay
I asked for your opinion and I got it!
And I appreciate it too.
No, time never does stand still and we do need to move with the times and adopt to changing circumstances or more up to date knowledge.
I really do appreciate you input.
Thank you
Dave I think you are absolutely right to put your loved ones first and also to admit that you now don’t have time for the challenge that you had set for yourself
I hope niece’s husband makes a full recovery
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Hi Michelle,
My niece’s husband is currently recuperating at home with his feet up and loving every moment of being looked after.
Although I’m sure he will take more care with where he walks in future!
Thank you for confirming that my decision was sound. I appreciate you comments
Great post Dave about self esteem and admitting mistakes.
So much damage can be caused when people simply refuse to admit they made a mistake.
It could almost be described as a skill to develop – once you’ve done it a couple of times it gets easier!
Cheers,
Gordon
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Hi Gordon
A lot of damage can be caused by someone refusing to admit that have made a mistake.
In fact, thinking back, that used to be one of my traits!
And, yes, admitting a mistake does and has got easier – in fact I would recommend it to everyone.
Thanks for making the point. It is an important one, especially for anyone working on their self esteem.
Hi Dave,
I think it is perfectly alright to change your mind. Especially if the reasons for changing you mind are kind off “legitimate”.
It is perfectly reasonable to want to spend time away from the computer. A little flexibility goes a long way.
I agree with Mike. In my opinion, one quality article beats 10 junkie pieces. With good articles you will get “sticky” visitors who will love to come back for more.
Regards,
Dita
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Hi Dita
Thanks for your comment and I do understand that “sticky” posts are much better than superfluous junkie posts.
And I also realise the importance of having family time.
I guess that at the back of my mind I was thinking (and I still do think) that I should have thought about all of that before committing to my challenge!
But, yes, I did make a mistake; I realised that and reviewed my decision:-
The world didn’t end and everything is the same except that I now feel better for having time for family, therapy clients and my own self.
And a good thing about all of this is that I am touched by the comments I have received – yours included. And for that I thank you.
Hi Dave!
Nice post. I like it that you put title for each segment of the post.
I think it’s totally fine that you changed your mind and stopped the challenge. The fact that you did attempt to do the challenge is already awesome.
Now you know that you can’t commit to that. If you didn’t try at all you’d never know and later you might have “what-if” questions in your head hehehe.
Have a great day Dave!
Chetz
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Hi Chetz
That is a great point that you make – if I hadn’t committed to the challenge, I would still be wondering if I could have/ should have!
That is so true!
Many thanks. Have a great day yourself…
Hi Dave,
you have touched a really good point here. A lot of people are afraid to admit being wrong or making mistakes because they think this makes them feel smaller, inferior or less perfect. But there is so much freedom and growth available when you can admit you’ve made a mistake, or you’re wrong about something. This is when you find your inner power, the source of self confidence and high self esteem.
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Thanks for pointing that out, Camelia, and I agree wholeheartedly.
I was brought up being told that I could always do better than I had done and I internalised that to a belief that I was never quite good enough.
Once I could accept that I didn’t need to be good at everything, and i didn’t have to be right all the time I felt a lot happier within myself.
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